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Your Identity in Christ When the World Defines You by Success, Looks, or Roles
The world defines us by our success, looks, or roles, but what does the Bible have to say about our identity in Christ?
Guest Post by: Chrysanthemum Baloi
The Bible tells us that the devil is the god of the world (2 Corinthians 4:4), and the Lord tells us that we are the light of the world, meaning that without us, the world is pure darkness. As we are of the light because we are born (again) of the Spirit of God, what say can the world have on who we are and how we live? No say at all.
The world is void of what is spiritual. As believers, we have the mind of Christ; we have the Spirit who helps us discern all things. We should not behave or think as the natural man does. “But I, brothers, could not address you as spiritual people, but as people of the flesh, as infants in Christ.” (1 Corinthians 3:1). True spirituality is walking as empowered by the Holy Spirit to not be in the flesh. It is spiritual because it is to do with the Spirit leading us as children of God.
The world defines us by our success, looks, or roles because, “This is not the wisdom that comes down from above, but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic.” (James 3:15). The wisdom of the world can’t help but be grounded in the physical world. But our identity in Christ is that we walk by faith because faith is our spiritual eyes that see the Invisible One.
Imitating Christ is Our Identity
As we are the light of the world because Christ is the Light of the world, we also share His love. God is love (1 John 4:8). The children of God are the only hope the world has of knowing love, of having light. We are defined by who Jesus is because it is His Spirit that leads us. It is the fruit of the Spirit that we practice and embody. Though we have unique human spirits, like a rose and a lily are both flowers, with the one mind of Christ, we are one, we are children of God the Father. Christ came so we could be like Him, so we could be sons and daughters unto the Most High God.
What does it mean for our sins to be paid for? It means when the Father sees you and me, He sees His perfect Son; He sees perfect children. How else would we have eternal life but unless we are perfect, for the Father is perfect (Matthew 5:48) and holy, for He is holy (1 Peter 1:15-16). And so because Jesus came to make our adoption unto the Heavenly Father legal, and has made us to be like Him, as the One who knew no sin became sin so that in Him we might become the righteousness of God (2 Corinthians 5:21), our identity is found in Jesus Christ, the Son of God.
John 1:12-13 teaches us that we were born not of blood nor of the will of the flesh, but of the will of God, because we received the light that is Christ Jesus. Now imagine going from this to making your identity as a human being to be such as a doctor, a lawyer, a receptionist, a billionaire, or an astronaut, etc. Nothing is a higher occupation than being a child of God. Nothing is more glorious, honourable, blessed, or more precious than our identity in Christ– being clothed and embodied in our eternal identity.
“But our citizenship is in heaven, and from it we await a Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ, who will transform our lowly body to be like his glorious body, by the power that enables him even to subject all things to himself.”
The One Mind of Christ the Lord
Who is Christ but the embodiment of the Holy Spirit of the Father? “And the Spirit of the Lord shall rest upon him, the Spirit of wisdom and understanding, the Spirit of counsel and might, the Spirit of knowledge and the fear of the Lord.” (Isaiah 11:2). “Who, then, are those who fear the Lord? He will instruct them in the ways they should choose.” (Psalms 25:12). “For all who are led by the Spirit of God are sons of God.” (Romans 8:14). “For the creation waits with eager longing for the revealing of the sons of God.” (Romans 8:19).
“So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” (1 Corinthians 10:31). That is to say, it is not dishonourable to be a doctor or a receptionist, but it is not who you are as a being, it is what you do. If we let the world define us by clothing ourselves with its worldly wisdom, how can we have the mind of Christ? Because the wisdom of Christ is from the Spirit of God, it’s from above. How will creation recognise us as the children of God so it can have relief from the darkness of the fallen nature?
God is our heritage. And so what is our success, how do we look, and what is our role? “Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth.” - (Colossians 3:2). Our success is that we are heirs of the Father with Christ, for, we endure the world and overcome it through God’s Spirit (Romans 8:17). How we look is that we are Christlike, predestined to be in the Son’s image because He is the firstborn among many brothers and sisters (Romans 8:29). And what is our role? We are the light of the world and we are the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus.
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Christian New Year Resolutions: A Biblical Perspective on Letting Go of the Old and Embracing the New
How do you typically approach the new year? Do you run at it with full force, excited for the change? Is it just another season, and you’re willing to see what comes of it? What’s the right way to approach the new year as a believer?
How do you typically approach the new year? Do you run at it with full force, excited for the change? Is it just another season, and you’re willing to see what comes of it? Or, does it draw no motivation from you whatsoever?
It’s the time of year when we hear all about resolutions, and as a believer, Christian New Year Resolutions certainly are a thing. Along these lines, I want to share something that’s been on my heart. Quite honestly, it’s something I’ve pondered in years past, but never really knew how to put it into words.
Here it is:
It’s a new year, and we’re told things are supposed to be new. Everything and all things are about being new, so now what are YOU going to do? But…is this way of thinking really correct or biblical?
When we step into the new year, we often hear:
Forget the previous year and its struggles, upsets, and disappointments.
Slogans like: New year new you. Out with the old and in with the new. What's coming is better than what's going. This is the beginning of anything you want. Cheers to a new year and another chance for us to get it right.
Forsake the old, and focus on the new, per se. Of course, there is validity to not continuing to wallow in past upsets. But remembering some aspects of the past is good, like what the Lord has done in the past (and what He may currently still be doing). Perhaps, He’s not ready to turn the page on the thing He’s been working on in you.
Here’s what I mean— there are a couple of things the Lord has called to my attention over the last several months that He has me working through, studying in the Word, and praying about. Following the world’s ideology, it’d be very easy for me view this new year as an opportunity to make a list of resolutions to focus on this year, quickly forgetting that the Lord isn’t finished in these areas of my life yet. But, knowing that He isn’t controlled or swayed by the changing of our calendars, is this the right thing to do?
Setting Christian New Year Resolutions: Should We?
Just like any normal resolution, a Christian New Year Resolution is made by setting goals to work toward some area of achievement or growth. The biggest difference is that there is typically more of a focus on relying on the Lord to help you in your pursuit, and the goals are centered more on spiritual disciplines—more Bible reading, more prayer time; growing closer in your walk with Him. Is there anything wrong with these things? Absolutely not! We should all desire further intimacy with the Lord, and spending more time with Him is how that comes to fruition. There is nothing wrong with recognizing that you need to re-route your habits a bit and focus on things that draw you closer to the Lord.
The issues come, in my opinion, when we jump into making any decision to change up, re-route, or focus on something new without prayerfully considering what the Lord may be directing us to do in a particular season. As daughters of the King— those who call Jesus the Lord of our lives— first and foremost, we must be sure we are actually allowing Him to be Lord. This means He directs our steps; He calls the shots: He shows us what is next, and we wait on Him to do so.
In other words, our “Christian” New Year Resolutions are just ordinary dreams and goals if the Lord isn’t in them.
And, in listening and waiting on Him, there is a call to not be so quick to jump to the next goal, plan, or purpose. Perhaps He isn’t done refining what He’s been doing in our lives over the last year, and it’s not time for new— it’s time for continuation. Before peering too far ahead, let’s be still and look back at how He’s already been working.
Remember What the Lord Has Done
Sister, it’s important to not let the past hold too much weight. We can dwell on the circumstances so much that we keep ourselves stuck in the past because we put the situations and emotions on syndication in our minds. This isn’t just a possibility with negative situations or hard times of the past— we do this with good circumstances too. The first typically brings sorrow, or perhaps guilt and shame, while the latter could bring an element of pride as we stay fixated on our “glory days”.
In remembering the past, I believe it’s much better allow our minds to shift to how God showed up in those situations: what He did externally and what He did internally in us.
<<Pause>> Grab your Bible and read Psalm 77 with me! (Yes, the whole chapter!)
“I will remember the works of the LORD; surely I will remember Your wonders of old. I will also meditate on all Your work, and talk of Your deeds.”
In my Bible, this Psalm is titled, “The Consoling Memory of God’s Redemptive Works.” The consoling memory…take a second to reflect on that description. Asaph, the writer of this psalm, reflected on a tough situation in the past— a time when he had to cry out to the Lord in the day of trouble (verse 2). At first, he remembers how, although he cried out to the Lord and he knew the Lord heard him, his soul was still not comforted. He felt unanswered prayers. He wondered if God would ever show His mercy, favor, and grace again (verses 7-9). Yet, he didn’t stop there. He still sought God, continually and diligently (verse 6).
There was a work going on inside of Asaph during this time of despair. Was there an element of that going on within us last year? Times of desperate calls to God, unanswered prayers, and questions God didn’t seem to address?
We have a choice in those times: to remain downcast and question God with a lack of faith, or allow His work to be done in our hearts to grow in our trust, belief, and faith in Him as we diligently seek Him.
Asaph’s act of continuing to bend His ear and heart to the Lord brought him to a place where he was consoled and gained a renewed place of trust in the Lord as he remembered the works of the Lord— the wonders of old that God had done in the past. He determined to remember His deeds, how God’s hand moved; how He redeemed His people. He could rightly proclaim in verse 13, “Who is so great a God as our God?”
Of course, I cannot recall how God worked in your life last year or years past, but I hope you can. Think hard. It’s normally not “parting the Red Sea” big; it’s the smaller-scale changes where His hand moved, provided, or changed a heart or outcome.
Remembering how the Lord worked helps us place deeper trust and confidence in Him because we’ve seen His hand move before, and when we remember those times, we believe all the more that He has the power and ability to move that way again. It’s two-fold— the more we remember how He’s worked in the past (external), the deeper our trust and faith take root (internal). This then leads us to a place where we simply trust Him because He is faithful and worthy to be trusted. Whether He comes through in the way we hope or not, we’ve already determined that He is all-powerful, completely able, and all-loving.
So, we should not miss how He’s worked internally, within us, and how He’s worked externally in our circumstances in the past.
Remember the Character of God in the New Year
We should remember not just the things He’s done, but also remember who He is.
True or False: It’s easy to be afraid, stumble, or hesitate in the present or when thinking of the future when we simply don’t remember the character of God.
“Remember the former things of old, for I am God, and there is no other; I am God, and there is none like Me.”
While recalling what He’s already done in our lives can bring to light aspects of His character and teach us more about who He is, it’s important to remember that the character of God is not determined by how He has worked in our lives. God is not “so good” because He has grown us, changed us, or recently delivered us from a difficult time. God is good because He is good. It’s His nature. He contains the qualities of His character in and of Himself, not because His works somehow give Him these qualities.
For quick reference, here are a handful of verses that note certain aspects of God’s character. I encourage you to dive into these verses in their entirety and meditate on who He is.
Exodus 34:5-7: merciful, gracious, long-suffering, goodness, truth, forgiving, just
Deuteronomy 7:9: faithful
Psalm 103:13: compassionate
Psalm 145:17: righteous, gracious
Isaiah 40:26-29: strong, mighty, author & giver of power, everlasting, Creator,
Isaiah 43:11: Savior
James 1:17: unchanging
1 John 4:8: love
What is God Doing in the New Year?
So it’s a new year, and our culture keeps saying: Set new goals! Make resolutions! Girl— it’s time for a new you!
A fresh start is always a nice sentiment; a nice way to get yourself in the right mindset to push forward and try new things. However, if our focus is only on ourselves and what we’ve set out to accomplish this new year, how far will we get? What if what the Lord has for us this new year is not brand new, shiny, and a completely new way of life? What if He wants to continue to hone in on the sanctification He’s been steadily working in us, only to continue to polish what’s already there?
I think it’s a good thing to not be so quick to forsake the “that’s so last year” life because the Lord may still want to press into what has been happening within us the last 365 days. We must go at His pace. See His perspective as best as possible— not simply forget what He’s been doing just so we can look towards the “new”. Our “last year” season of refining may not be over yet.
“Do not remember the former things,
nor consider the things of old.
Behold, I will do a new thing,
now it shall spring forth;
Shall you not know it?
I will even make a road in the wilderness
and rivers in the desert.”
“Do not remember the former things”… wait, what? This could almost sound contradictory to what we just talked about! But follow me, sister. Here’s the point: we’re not to look to the past and dwell on the failures, defeats, and disappointments. This way of “considering the things of old” leads to self-condemnation, whereas we’re constantly thinking it’s all about us and how we’ve messed up. Considering the past is done rightly when our focus is on the Lord and all He’s done.
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When God is Doing a New Thing
So, forget the wrong mindset, and look to the new things that God Himself is proposing to do. What are His goals, His resolutions, His plans, and His purposes for your new year?
In Isaiah 43:19, God says, “I will do a new thing.” I. Him. Allow the Lord to show you the new thing, and then align your ideas, thoughts, and plans with His will.
In the context of this verse, God wanted Isaiah to prophetically tell the people to look forward to what He would do when He’d pull them out of captivity in Babylon. They could either remain stuck in that defeat— or even longingly desire to stay in their life in Babylon— or they could look to the goodness God would bring for them in their exile. It was going to be God’s new thing, not something they had to muster up.
Maybe, for us in this season, the new is not exactly a new thing; just part of the continual work He’s still completing in us (which typically brings about “new” along the way). We can be content in this, too.
But, perhaps it is a new thing that the Lord has declared. Well then, sister: let’s not make an idol of the “new”. Many do this as they make resolutions (even Christian New Year resolutions), resulting in their whole life focus becoming revolved around the one new thing they have set out to do. No matter how good it looks, and even when it’s God-ordained, the “new” is not the main thing. God Himself is always the main thing. Our gaze should remain set on Him.
Allowing the Lord to Direct our New Year
Let me know if you agree: many give up on their resolutions by February because they try to walk out their goals, dreams, and resolutions in the flesh.
We say things like, “This is our year! This is our moment!” News flash— No, it’s God’s!
Allow me to pause for a moment and make it clear that I do not think there is anything wrong with setting goals, being ambitious, and working hard. Numerous things in our lives call us to do so; we cannot be a lazy sluggard and expect things in our lives to accomplish themselves. So, in no way am I saying that it is bad or futile to set goals or lay out step-by-step plans to get from point A to point B. What I am saying, however, is that in all of that, we need to first seek the Lord for our starting point this year, and always.
If we’re truly allowing the Lord to direct our steps in what He’s proposing for us right now, then we have no reason to fall for the lie that because we’re approaching February, we’re behind in our game plan for this year and we may as well give up.
In elementary math, we learned about lines and segments. A line extends indefinitely, while a segment has a defined starting and ending point. When we believe this lie— that we’re already behind— we’ve taken our eyes off the Lord, and we’ve come to see our life, growth, and purpose as a segment. There’s a starting point and an end point (e.g., 2025 to 2026). Hence, our culture’s mindset that one year ends a certain chapter, and the new year starts the next. It’s too definitive.
We really should view our lives like a line, which, by definition, extends infinitely in both directions with no endpoints. (Of course, I don’t mean we’ve existed forever). But God’s purposes and sanctification within us travel on a line, not a segment. It is ongoing, and He sets the points of change, not us. And the points of change do not denote the end of the line, it just set up little mile markers for us to look back on someday to remember the things of old, and how He worked in and around us.
Bible Verses for the New Year
So sister, as we think about this new year and where we are now, it’s important to stay in step with the Spirit and move as He directs. Stepping into the new year is more about surrender and setting goals. This is the most important piece when it comes to the “practical” (day-to-day), and I believe this is something each of us just has to work out with the Lord.
I’ll leave you with some verses to use as a starting point. I encourage you to study them in your quiet time, reflect on them, and pray them. Then wait on the Lord and see what He has for you this season and in this new year!
“Psalm 37:23: “The steps of a man are established by the Lord, and He delights in his way.”
Proverbs 3:5-7: “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight. Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord and turn away from evil.”
Proverbs 16:1-3: “The plans of the heart belong to a person, but the answer of the tongue is from the Lord. All the ways of a person are clean in his own sight, but the Lord examines the motives. Commit your works to the Lord, and your plans will be established.”
Proverbs 16:9: “The mind of a person plans his way, but the Lord directs his steps.”
Proverbs 20:24: “A man’s steps are ordained by the Lord; how then can a person understand his way?”
Galatians 5:16: “But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not carry out the desire of the flesh.”
Galatians 5:25-26: “If we live by the Spirit, let’s follow the Spirit as well. Let’s not become boastful, challenging one another, envying one another.”
Do you have Bible verses you’ve been meditating on in the new year? Tell me in the comments!
When You Feel Behind in Life: God’s Timing Is Still Perfect
Have you ever felt behind in life? Like every else was being called, but not you? In these moments…
Guest Post By: Alexia Jons
You weren’t supposed to feel this way.
By now, you thought you’d be further along — in your calling, your relationships, your purpose.
Instead, it feels like you’re sitting in the waiting room of your own life while everyone else gets called ahead of you. And honestly? You’re starting to wonder if God forgot your name.
This article isn’t about clichés or quick fixes.
It’s for the Christian woman who feels stuck between faith and frustration — still trusting God, but also quietly wondering:
“Why is it taking so long?”
“Did I miss something?”
“Is everyone moving forward… without me?”
Let’s talk about it — the loneliness of feeling behind, and the solid, immovable truth that God is not in a hurry — but He is never late.
The Silent Grief of Feeling “Behind”
Feeling behind isn’t always about envy.
Sometimes, it’s about grief — grieving the life you imagined you'd have by now.
Maybe you expected to be married — but you're navigating singleness and silence.
Maybe you thought you'd have children — but your arms are still waiting.
Maybe you were once full of dreams — but delays and disappointments dimmed the light.
Or maybe you’ve achieved “what you should” but still feel strangely… empty.
Here’s the truth nobody says out loud enough:
You can love God deeply and still feel disappointed with how life looks.
And you are not less faithful for wrestling with that tension.
God’s Timing: Personal, Not Generic
There’s a reason the Bible says “to everything there is a season” (Ecclesiastes 3:1). God doesn’t use cookie-cutter timelines. His timing is custom-tailored to each life — not to keep us waiting, but to make us whole.
Take Hannah, who prayed for a child for years while others around her gave birth easily. Her story in 1 Samuel reminds us that:
God's delays are often His preparations for something sacred.
Or think of Joseph — sold, imprisoned, and forgotten before rising to leadership. Every pause was part of a greater purpose: not just to promote him, but to shape him.
What if the season you're in isn't punishment or neglect…
…but the soil where roots are growing deep beneath the surface?
Four Lies We Believe When We Feel Behind
Let’s gently call out the subtle lies that sneak into our hearts — and replace them with truth:
Lie #1: “I’m falling behind.”
Truth: You're right on schedule for what God has called you to. Delay in the world’s eyes isn’t delay in His eyes. (Isaiah 55:8–9)
Lie #2: “Other people are doing it better.”
Truth: No one is ahead or behind in the Kingdom. We’re each running a race designed just for us. (Hebrews 12:1)
Lie #3: “God must be disappointed in me.”
Truth: God is not pacing heaven waiting for you to “catch up.” He delights in you now — not when you finally achieve something. (Zephaniah 3:17)
Lie #4: “My best days are behind me.”
Truth: If you’re still breathing, God’s not done writing. Your most beautiful chapters may be the ones ahead. (Philippians 1:6)
Trusting God’s Timing: What to Do When the Waiting Feels Heavy
Here are some practical ways to live well while waiting for what hasn’t yet come:
1. Name the disappointment, but don’t stay there.
God invites honesty. The Psalms are full of raw questions and open grief. Name what hurts — then bring it to Him.
2. Stop tracking others’ timelines like a scoreboard.
You’re not failing just because someone else is celebrating. Their gain is not your loss.
3. Celebrate the quiet fruit no one sees.
Patience. Growth. Surrender. These aren't small things — they are holy victories.
4. Practice joy today. Not when the prayer is answered — now.
Joy isn’t a reward for “arriving.” It’s a gift for the present. Start small: sunlight on your face, laughter with a friend, Scripture that lands deep.
A Sacred Reminder: Jesus Wasn’t in a Hurry Either
Jesus — the Savior of the world — lived 30 quiet years before His ministry began.
No platform. No big reveals. Just hidden faithfulness.
If the Son of God wasn’t rushed, why should we be?
Maybe what feels slow is actually sacred.
Maybe what looks like waiting is actually becoming.
Final Word: God Is Not Late — He’s Loving You in the Delay
When you feel behind in life, remember:
You’re not off course. You’re on holy ground.
The same God who saw you in your mother’s womb (Psalm 139:13–16) still sees you now — not just where you are, but where you’re going.
And His promise is this:
“I will fulfill the purpose I have for you.” — Psalm 138:8
Not maybe.
Not hopefully.
But will.
You are not behind.
You are held.
You are seen.
And you are exactly where God can reach you.
Even now.
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Take Heed: A Call to Fulfill Your Christian Ministry
Recently, when reading Colossians, a certain sentence jumped out at me. I knew this was something the Lord wanted me to consider and take seriously.
Recently, when reading through Colossians, a sentence jumped out at me that I’d never taken notice of before. I don’t know why I’d never considered it the previous times I’ve read through this powerful epistle written by Paul, other than perhaps it wasn’t something the Lord needed me to focus on at the time. But, this time, it struck me as very interesting:
“And say to Archippus, ‘Take heed to the ministry which you have received in the Lord, that you may fulfill it.’”
Have you ever stopped to ponder this verse? If you’re like me, sometimes when I see the names of people in Scripture who aren’t the “star players”, I do one of two things— stop and wonder who that person was; or, I’ll skim past the name and just look at what is being said. I have to admit, when reading this chapter in the past, I likely jumped over poor Archippus and finished up the letter in verse 17.
However, this time the Lord tapped me on the shoulder and told me to stop. Contemplate. Consider. Search into the wisdom in this short sentence.
After all, the Holy Spirit led Paul to include this piece of information; therefore— although it’s written directly to Archippus— it’s still in there for us to read today, so let’s not neglect it.
Ministry. Take heed. Fulfill. Received. These words on their own are significant enough in certain contexts, but when strung together in proper order, coming from the Lord Himself, through the method of Paul’s hand, they are worth taking the time to investigate.
Do I Have a Christian Ministry?
In this verse, the Greek word used for ministry is diakonía. It refers to the service of all who endeavor to carry out the cause of Christ among men, through the enabling of the Lord. Christian ministry is not reserved only for those with special titles of leadership within the church— we all have areas of ministry that the Lord has given us as His daughters, whether we’ve been “officially” appointed in a role or not.
Motherhood is a ministry. Disciplining your children is a ministry. Caring for an aging parent is a ministry. Being a faithful witness in your workplace is a ministry. Being a friendly, helpful neighbor who shines the light of Christ to those on her block is indeed a ministry.
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You see, the Lord has placed each of us in a specific point in time, for reasons we likely will never fully comprehend on this side of Heaven.
“And He has made from one blood every nation of men to dwell on all the face of the earth, and has determined their preappointed times and the boundaries of their dwellings, so that they should seek the Lord, in the hope that they might grope for Him and find Him, though He is not far from each one of us; for in Him we live and move and have our being, as also some of your own poets have said, ‘For we are also His offspring.’ ”
It was the right time for us to hear the gospel and believe, and it’s the right time to walk within the areas of ministry He’s given us. This is our God: He has a plan and has taken care of all of the details. What we need to do is be mindful to abide in Him and walk in the Spirit so we are not missing the ways He desires for us to fulfill our ministries in the every day.
The Lord Gives You the Ministry
Back to our friend Archippus. If we take a closer look at verse 17 of Colossians 4, we’ll notice the phrase, “which you have received in the Lord”. So do we define our ministries, or does the Lord?
In the Greek, the phrase, “which you have received” means to receive something transmitted; to take to; not to reject; not to withhold obedience. So, if we’ve received something, then it wasn’t fashioned with our own hands; it wasn’t something of our own doing. It was given to us, transmitted to us, and we are to take it in obedience.
Archippus received his ministry “in the Lord”. So then, the ministry belonged to the Lord and He had the power and authority to transmit it to Archippus. Under the Lord’s authority, Archippus was to receive it– not reject it– and be obedient. Paul shares a similar thought in Acts 20:24:
“But none of these things move me; nor do I count my life dear to myself, so that I may finish my race with joy, and the ministry which I received from the Lord Jesus, to testify to the gospel of the grace of God.”
Sister, we can come up with the best ideas, look at all the market research and determine the supply and demand; we can create the most colorful, engaging programs— yet, if the Lord isn’t in it, then really it’s our ministry, and not of the Lord. He places desires in our hearts according to His will, and He will soften and change our hearts to bend toward those desires if we allow Him. But in order for this to happen, we must determine to not be so set in our own ideas that we don’t hear what the Lord wants to do. Remember— He has appointed us to this particular time and place, and He knows how the story will unfold.
Let’s not be too busy writing our own story that we neglect to take part in His.
As hesitant as I was to start this blog several years ago, I finally stepped out of my own way and gave up trying to write up my own ministry plans by way of excuses. It didn’t matter that I “didn’t have time”, I “wasn’t sure what to write about”, or that I had “no idea how to operate a blog”. Surely, I thought, all of these “facts” about myself meant I should just create some other type of Christian ministry! However, THIS ministry was from the Lord, and He made that abundantly clear.
My role was to: (1) realize who was (and is) in charge; and (2) receive the ministry, knowing that He would give me the ability to fulfill it. I can now honestly say “Ditto!” to Paul’s statement: “And I thank Christ Jesus our Lord who has enabled me, because He counted me faithful, putting me into the ministry” (1 Timothy 1:12 NKJV).
How Do I Fulfill My Christian Ministry?
Do you think the Lord wants to give you a ministry, only so you can sit back and watch it dissipate due to lack of obedience on your part? May it not be so! The things in this life that the Lord gives us need to be taken seriously. Although we often personalize things and think of it as “our” ministry, remember, really it is the Lord’s. His glory is on the line— not that we have the power to mess up so badly that we can depreciate His value— but we do have the opportunity to bear witness to His greatness, His character, His creativity and point others to Him, whether unbelievers for salvation; or, believers for further growth in Him, as we carry out the ministry He’s given us. Therefore, we shouldn’t be careless.
Archippus is told to “take heed”. I know we don’t use that phrase much these days, but quite honestly, in my opinion, it comes across with a serious tone translated this way.
To take heed, in the Greek, means to to look on, regard; to turn the thoughts or direct the mind to a thing; to consider; to weigh carefully. In other verses of Scripture, take heed is used in the fashion of a warning, as in 1 Corinthians 10:12: take heed, lest you fall. (Bonus: Read other “take heed” verses in their context: 1 Corinthians 3:10; 1 Corinthians 8:8-9; Galatians 5:14-15; 1 Timothy 4:16.) In other words, be careful to do a certain thing so the desired result comes to pass; otherwise, something else will happen instead. Perhaps the implied here is to take heed to carry out the ministry, otherwise your attention will go elsewhere and you won’t fulfill it.
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Fulfilling your ministry is done by walking in step with the Lord. It’s ok to have a vision for the “big picture”, but more importantly, we have to be mindful of what He is telling us in the moment. Obey Step A, and He will lead you to Step B. We don’t have to fulfill it all in one day— it’s a process, a season, or for some, even a lifetime. And let me also say that the Lord will lead you to different areas of ministry throughout your life— again, some for a season; some for a lifetime. Whatever the ministry is, it’s more about being obedient in the daily. He knows who needs to be reached today; who needs the gospel today; who needs discipled today; and which tasks need checked off today.
Fulfilling your ministry doesn’t happen by constantly worrying about tomorrow. Just stay faithful to Him today.
Don’t Be Distracted in Ministry
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Take Heed: Don’t Get Distracted From Your Ministry
Fulfilling the ministry the Lord has given us means we cannot fulfill every other purpose and plan that we, and others, come up with for our lives. Commentator Matthew Henry says of Colossians 4:17:
“…to be careful and diligent of all parts of it, and persevere in it unto the end. They must attend to the main design of their ministry, without troubling themselves or the people with things foreign to it, or of less moment.”
I see this commentary as meaning: we shouldn’t trouble ourselves with things foreign to our ministry— things that can easily become a distraction or pull our attention elsewhere, no matter how good. And, let’s not be distracted by things that seem urgent or pressing now, if in fact they are not more important than our ministry.
We must know how to prioritize.
Aside from Archippus, Paul gives a similar “take heed” exhortation to Timothy in 2 Timothy 4:5. The word “fulfill” in this verse is a different Greek word than the one used in Colossians 4:17, but contains a similar thought. To Timothy, Paul used the Greek word, “plerophoreo”: to bear or bring full; to fulfill the ministry in every part; to carry through to the end; to accomplish.
“But you be watchful in all things, endure afflictions, do the work of an evangelist, fulfill your ministry. ”
Essentially, Paul says that in order to take heed to the ministry we have received in the Lord, we need to be watchful in all things— sober-minded, calm and collected in Spirit; not easily distracted by other things. We must be ready and willing to endure afflictions, not allowing them to discourage us or throw us off course. We must turn to the Lord for strength and perseverance, remembering that He is the one who gave us the ministry in the first place, and what He has begun in us He will always complete.
Sister, we have to remember that what we do for the Lord is not in vain; not wasted! It is easy (and natural) to become weary. Yet, the Lord calls us to be steady during those times. 1 Corinthians 15:58 tells us, “Therefore, my beloved brothers and sisters, be steadfast, immovable, always excelling in the work of the Lord [always doing your best and doing more than is needed], being continually aware that your labor [even to the point of exhaustion] in the Lord is not futile nor wasted [it is never without purpose]. -Amplified Bible
No matter how “insignificant” our work seems to be, our calling is great because it is from Him! In our weariness, our distractions, and hardships, we can lean on Him knowing that He will not leave us hanging. He will bring to pass the purposes He sovereignly desires. What a blessing that He wants us to be a part of it!
To Fulfill Your Christian Ministry: 1st Be Filled
I’m saving this point for the end because often we remember the last thing someone has said to us. This one is important; in fact, without this decision, we are fulfilling our ministry in vain.
In order to adequately fulfill our mission in Him, we must be filled with the knowledge of Him and His will. This is considered a “first things first” kind of thing.
Just as Paul prays for the Colossians in chapter 1:9-10, in order to be ready, willing, and able to truly take heed to the ministry the Lord gave us, we must be “filled with the knowledge of His will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding.” From there, the goal is that we would “walk worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing Him, being fruitful in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God.” The knowledge of Him and His will for our lives comes first. Without knowing Him we cannot walk worthy, fully please Him, or be fruitful in the good works He has prepared for us, such as the ministry He has given us.
Perhaps when we are spinning our wheels and feel we aren’t being productive in the things we’re doing for Him, it’s because we are lacking in our knowledge of Him; our intimacy with Him. We have pulled away and aren’t fully abiding.
Perhaps, it is a call from Him that in this time, this moment, we need to lean in and go deeper in the knowledge of Him.
Being only partially filled with the knowledge of Him, we can still walk— but not fully worthy; we can still be fruitful— but not in every good work; and we can still please Him— but only minimally and not fully.
Don’t confuse the partial results with the true results— the full results of a life filled with the knowledge of Him. A glass half full can aid in dehydration, but a full glass, one that is overflowing, even (such are the provisions He typically gives— overflowing and abounding!), can quench and fully satisfy.
Sister, I implore you (and me!) to seek Him diligently through the Word; through prayer; by simply abiding and being still.
To Fulfill Your Ministry: Take Heed to Yourself
Keep tracking with me, sister: when we are taking heed to our ministry and we are sure to stay close to the Lord— to stay in that intimate place; to stay in the Word— then we must also be diligent to follow what we’re teaching in our ministry. We can’t expect others to grow in their walk with the Lord if they are looking to us as an example, yet we are not doing so. (*Ouch*) As Paul says, “Lest when I have preached to others, I myself should become disqualified” (1 Corinthians 9:27). We must see ourselves as both the facilitator of the ministry, and a recipient.
In other words, don’t just take heed to your ministry. Also take heed to yourself.
We stay grounded in our faith. We put on the things of the Lord. We put to death the behaviors of the flesh. We walk by the Spirit. We stand fast in the Lord. We operate in love.
“And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him.”
Sister, let’s step out of the way and truly let the Lord use us! Go where He wants to go. Do the work that He wants to do. In all these things, let’s remain thankful to the Lord because He is mindful of us and gives us the opportunity to take part in His plans and purposes. Our ministries will bring glory to Him as we do them in His name.
So I say to you: Take heed to the ministry you have received in the Lord, that you may fulfill it!
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5 Ways to Let Your Light Shine
It’s easy to hide, isn’t it? But, is that what we’re called to in our Christian walk? Absolutely not! We are the light of the world, and in order to be a city set on a hill, we must…
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Has anyone ever asked you if you were a Christian? I can recall the first time someone asked me. The question surprised me, but also blessed me at the same time. I won’t retell the full story here (you can find it in this post), but I will say that there is something very important about ensuring that your actions, words, and demeanor reflect our risen Savior. At the time of this person asking me, I don’t think that I was necessarily an amazing reflection of Christ (I was a fairly new believer at the time– I barely knew anything!); however, I suppose there was enough of His light shining through me during that interaction, that it was noticeable to this (seemingly) other believer.
Since that day, I’ve learned that there is an intentionality we must have in our walk with Christ. He tells us that we are the salt of the earth, and the light of the world (Matthew 5:13-14). And, as the light of the world, we are to let our light shine.
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You Are the Light of the World
Before we dive into how to let your light shine, let’s first pause and read the verses that contain the well-known truth spoken by Jesus, “you are the light of the world”:
“You are the light of the world. A city that is set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do they light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a lampstand, and it gives light to all who are in the house. Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven.”
The amazing thing about this statement is that Jesus first said it about Himself! We find in various Scriptures, such as John 8:12, that Jesus refers to Himself as the Light of the world. Jesus came to bring light to a dark world; to bring hope and life, and free us from the power of sin and death. The kingdom of darkness cannot hold a candle to the kingdom of Light— the kingdom of the Beloved Son.
So then, as we are now in Christ— those who follow Christ and have been made new in Him— we are the light. Because He is in us, we are now the light bearers with the responsibility of shining the light of Christ through our lives as we share the gospel and live as the hands and feet of Jesus. What a high call and responsibility; something that can only be done by His grace!
Ephesians 5:9 says, “For the fruit of the light consists in all goodness, righteousness, and truth.” As the light of the world, you and I are to represent goodness, righteousness, and truth. All of these things can only be found in the Lord, which is why it’s so imperative that we abide in Him. Our fellowship should be with the Lord, not with the darkness. The light shining through us will not only expose the darkness, but also bring into view those things which are acceptable to the Lord. As believers, we are challenged by the fact that we are automatically deemed as the light of the world; yet, as with anything in our Christian walk, it takes intentionality and wise decisions to carry out this high calling the Lord has placed on our lives. {There’s so much more that could be said! You can dive slightly deeper into this topic— moving from darkness into light— in this post.}
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Let Your Light Shine
Sister, I’ll say it again– this is why I truly appreciate companies and ministries like my friends at Good News T-Shirts. They are ready and willing to be a light in a dark world. Their owner, Sarah, said of their brand, that they are a family-owned business, “dedicated to spreading God's Word through Scripture-based apparel. Our mission is to create meaningful, conversation-starting t-shirts that encourage faith, discipleship, and sharing the Good News of Jesus.”
Do you hear the intentionality in that? It’s not just about creating t-shirts, bags, and other apparel with cute sayings to make a quick sale— the underworking of their mission is to let the light of Christ shine in all they do and create, while providing you with a tool that sparks conversation and gives you a practical opportunity to be a light in the world.
Let’s not miss the grace of God in the fact that believers are the light of the world– the grace we see in that we were once darkness, but now are light in the Lord (Ephesians 5:8— go read it!). Take notice– the interesting thing about this verse is that it doesn’t say that we were once IN darkness— it says that we WERE darkness. Although the former thought is true as well, in that we fumbled around blindly, in darkness before Christ rescued us, it’s also eye-opening to realize that we, in and of ourselves, once were darkness. Inside of us was a void, and we were darkness. But now, in Christ, we are light! We can walk in His light, yes, but by the grace of God, we are light!
After telling us that we are the light of the world in Matthew 5, Jesus goes on to say that a city set on a hill cannot be hidden. It was built there for a reason— to be exposed, noticeable, and to light up the surrounding landscape. That’s us! Jesus is building us on a proverbial hill, with the intent that we would remain on the hill, not go and hide under a basket. Good News T-Shirts, like so many of you, is choosing to remain steadfast and rooted on that hill, with a willing heart to bring the light of Christ to a dark world.
How to Let Your Light Shine
The purpose of being the light of the world is to bring the Truth to the world, so that God may be glorified (Matthew 5:16). This is why Jesus says that it’s no use for a lamp to be hidden under a basket. Under a basket, the light is muffled, easily overcome by darkness, and reaches no one. It has a weakened ability to bring glory to God.
May we not hide under a basket, sister! Finally, let’s chat about how to let your light shine in some practical ways. Of course, this is in no way an exhaustive list— just a handful of things I believe line up with Scripture, that were on my heart to share, and can be practically done, in His strength!
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#1: Abide in Christ
First and foremost, the only way we can properly give off the light we’ve been given is to abide in the Light Himself. In John 12, Jesus refers to Himself as light, telling His listeners that they had Him present with them as light, and they should believe in the light, lest they walk in darkness and it overcome them (verse 35). Believing in the light in turn would allow them to become sons of light (verse 36), and therefore they would no longer abide in darkness (verse 46).
In Christ, we are free from the darkness, but we also must decide to abide in the Light— in Christ. It’s a daily decision to rest in His ways, believe His promises, and allow Him to direct our steps. Abiding in Him allows us to draw from His strength and bear the fruit in our lives that pleases Him. Without Him, we can do nothing (John 15), so why try to be His witness to a dark world on our own? It will be of no avail. We must stay as closely connected as possible to the vine—the ultimate power source— so our light shines all the more brightly.
#2: Study the Word
When you think of a light source, such as a lamp, in order to operate as it was designed to do, it must first be connected to the ultimate power source, which gives it its power and ability to produce light. Within that connection, there has to be an understanding of what this ultimate source is doing for the light source as it is connected; there has to be a belief in the power and ability of the ultimate source to create and sustain the light in which the lamp is producing. And, there has to be a trust in the ultimate source that the electrical current being provided is safe, true, and exactly what the lamp needs. Otherwise, the lamp would have no desire to stay connected to the source.
I know I’m personifying a lamp, but just go with me for a second!
This is all true for us too, sister, as we are the lights who need to trust in the Ultimate Light. We come to know, understand, and trust the Lord more by first abiding, but also by being faithful to study His Word. The Scriptures communicate the truth of who He is— His character, attributes, and promises. The degree to which our light shines brightly is greatly affected by how much we believe Him, and believe in Him. We must know unarguably and undoubtedly that He is faithful, honorable, and true, and that He will keep our path lit (Psalm 119:105) so that we can light the path for others straight back to Him.
Allow Him to speak to you in your quiet time, through prayer, and in the studying of His Word. You will miss so much of Him if you are skimping on your Bible time. Let’s be sisters who are faithful to read and live out His Word!
#3. Yield to the Spirit
In Christ, we have the Spirit in us, and He will guide us into all Truth, as His work is to glorify the Lord (John 16:13-14). Therefore, to effectively walk in the light and let our light shine, following the promptings of the Holy Spirit is the best way to ensure our actions are pleasing to the Father.
There are many times we may want to follow our flesh and avoid a situation, a particular conversation, or a specific person because we fear it may get awkward. We fear we may be rejected when we start speaking the Truth. But if it’s what the Lord wants us to do in that moment, then we should trust that He has a purpose and will give us the courage to speak and the words to say.
It is not for our glory anyway, so let’s not worry about feeling awkward! I’m speaking to myself here, too. Remember, letting our light shine is for the glory of the Father, and the Spirit will make sure that happens if we walk in Him in those moments.
#4: Fellowship
Fellowship with other believers may seem a little out of place here, since we’re talking about being a city set on a hill and how to let your light shine— all of which make us immediately think of reaching a dark world. And indeed, this is what we’re talking about. However, let’s not forget that rubbing shoulders with other lights can aid in keeping you grounded in your faith via encouragement and exhortation. We need Christ, and we need each other! Our gifts serve others, perhaps giving them the inspiration and courage to step out and let their light shine a little brighter. And, they can do the same for you. Let’s not forsake fellowship and gathering with other believers (Hebrews 10:24-25).
#5: Don’t Hold Back
This one takes us back to my friends at Good News T-Shirts. Sister, when I see a person or a company that is unashamed of the gospel of Christ and willing to put themselves out there with the sole mission of bringing others to Him, it exhilarates me. This is what this brand stands for. From the first time we spoke, and in viewing their website, I could tell that they have a passion for simplicity— a simplicity that keeps the focus on Christ. There’s no need for extra fluff, gimmicks, or flashy ways to attract people. It’s Christ alone at the forefront of Good News T-Shirts, and He is enough.
They are dedicated to sharing God’s Word through their apparel and are dedicated to spreading encouragement and sparking conversations. This is what I mean by “don’t hold back”. Some of us have no trouble opening our mouths and proclaiming the gospel, anytime, anywhere. Others of us tend to be more hesitant. That’s where the family behind this brand steps in, using their gifts to help build up other believers. Pop on a t-shirt or carry a tote bag donned with the pure Word of God—not catchy sayings— and you’ve got an instant conversation starter. The simplicity of the t-shirt designs doesn’t distract from the ability to make Scripture the focal point, which allows those around you to encounter the Word of God and allows you an opportunity to be a light in the world. Others may ask you what the verse you’re wearing means, or why you chose that Scripture, and you have an instant opportunity to let your light shine— to proclaim the good news of the gospel and the power of God.
Not only are we not holding back as we wear Scripture, but in the process of deciding to do so, we are likely walking through the other 4 points on which we just touched:
When we’re abiding in Christ, we’re gaining a better understanding of His character and gaining the peace that only He gives, therefore making us more relaxed, open, and willing to do whatever He wants us to do to glorify His name.
Studying the Word gives us the ability to understand and interpret these verses, which can bring clarity to the conversations we may have with those who ask.
More trust in the Lord and His promises gives us the regular desire to yield to the Spirit, perhaps even in the moments when we’re getting dressed and He tells us to put on our Scripture-based t-shirt. As silly as that sounds, we can trust that He has a purpose and plan for it, and He knows who may need to see the verse on our shirt or bag that day. We can also yield to the Spirit in those moments when we know He’s calling us to speak up and share the gospel or the Truth of the Word.
And, as we go deeper in fellowship with other believers, we’ll be more compelled to do the work of Christ because we have the encouragement from the rest of the body building us up.
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May we all shine brightly in His name and for His glory!
Discover and Live Out Your Purpose
As Christian women, we often find ourselves asking the question, "What is my purpose?" This question can linger in our minds, especially during seasons of …
Guest Post By: Emily Christine
As Christian women, we often find ourselves asking the question, "What is my purpose?" This question can linger in our minds, especially during seasons of change or uncertainty. However, the truth is, every Christian woman has been uniquely created by God for a specific purpose—one that not only brings fulfillment and meaning but also serves His greater kingdom. The key is discovering that purpose and living it out in every aspect of our lives. In this post, I’ll share how you can uncover God’s purpose for your life and the steps you can take to align your actions, choices, and daily living with His divine plan for you.
The first step in living out your God-given purpose is understanding what that purpose is. For some women, this may seem like a daunting task—especially when faced with multiple roles and responsibilities. However, understanding God’s purpose isn’t about finding just one "big" calling. It’s about recognizing how God’s will manifests in our everyday lives, from how we show love to our families to how we serve in our communities.
Seek God’s Guidance
To discover God’s purpose, begin by seeking His guidance through prayer, Scripture, and reflection. The Bible assures us that when we seek the Lord with all our hearts, He will reveal Himself to us (Jeremiah 29:13). God’s purpose for our lives is not something hidden or elusive; it is something He wants us to understand clearly so that we can walk in it with confidence. By immersing ourselves in His Word, we begin to recognize the gifts, talents, and passions He has instilled within us that are meant to serve His kingdom.
Don’t Overlook Relationships
In many cases, God’s purpose for us unfolds in the context of our relationships—whether it’s within our families, friendships, or broader communities. As Christian women, we are called to reflect God’s love to others, and this often involves sacrificial service, encouragement, and hospitality. Through these relationships, God refines our hearts and teaches us how to live out His love and purpose in tangible ways.
Overcome Doubts and Fears
Once we begin to sense God’s call, doubts and fears often arise. These feelings can be paralyzing and prevent us from stepping fully into the life God has prepared for us. Insecurity, fear of failure, or concerns about our abilities can easily overshadow our faith. However, Scripture reminds us that we are never alone in our calling.
Combat Insecurity with Truth
Insecurity is one of the most common obstacles Christian women face when stepping into their God-given purpose. We may doubt whether we are capable or qualified to pursue the calling God has placed on our hearts. But Scripture reminds us that God doesn’t call the equipped—He equips the called. And while 2 Corinthians 12:9 teaches us that “His grace is sufficient for you, for My power is made perfect in weakness,” it’s important to recognize that God’s call often emphasizes the sufficiency of His grace and His power working through our weaknesses. When we feel inadequate, we must turn to God’s promises, remembering that His strength is made perfect in our weakness.
Instead of thinking of "equipping" as simply gaining skills, talents, or abilities to make things easier, we need to understand that God’s grace enables us to fulfill our purpose, even when we feel inadequate. In our weaknesses, we are reminded of our need for God, and it is through this dependence on Him that His power is perfected.
Battling Fear with Faith
Fear is another major hindrance to fulfilling God’s plan. Whether it’s fear of failure, fear of what others might think, or fear of stepping into the unknown, these fears can keep us from trusting God fully. But Scripture teaches us that “God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind” (2 Timothy 1:7). Trusting in God’s character—His love, faithfulness, and goodness—helps us overcome fear and embrace His purpose for us with boldness and confidence.
SPEND MORE TIME IN THE WORD
To discover your God-given purpose, the key is to know God! Let’s spend more time at His feet and in His Word. Struggling to get your quiet time in each day? Here are 22 tips to help you get in the habit of not missing a beat. Download your FREE copy here.
Practical Steps to Purposeful Living
Living a life aligned with God’s purpose is not something that happens overnight. It requires intentional action and daily choices. Here are some simple yet powerful steps you can take to live out your God-given purpose:
#1: Prioritize Your Time with God
Purposeful living begins with a strong foundation of faith. Dedicate time each day for Bible study, prayer, and reflection. This will keep you rooted in God’s Word and help you discern His will for your life.
#2: Serve Others
God’s purpose for your life is often realized through service to others. Whether it’s serving your family, your church, or your community, look for opportunities to use your unique gifts to make a difference in the lives of those around you.
#3: Live with Integrity
Align your actions with your faith in every area of life—whether it’s in the workplace, at home, or in social settings. By living with integrity and staying true to your values, you honor God and set an example for others.
#4: Set Purposeful Goals
Take time to set goals that align with your faith and values. Whether they’re personal, professional, or spiritual goals, write them down and pray over them. As you work toward your goals, ask God to lead and guide you, and trust that He will equip you for the journey ahead.
#5: Cultivate Gratitude and Contentment
Sometimes, we get so focused on our goals that we forget to appreciate the blessings we have right now. Practice gratitude by taking time each day to thank God for His provision, love, and guidance.
#6: Remember The Power of Prayer in Finding Purpose
Prayer is one of the most powerful tools for discovering and living out your purpose. It is in prayer that we lay down our doubts, fears, and plans before God and invite Him to lead us. Through prayer, we gain clarity and direction for the path He has for us.
God’s purpose for our lives isn’t a one-size-fits-all blueprint; it’s a unique, personal journey that requires constant communication with Him. Prayer is not just about asking for what we want—it’s about aligning our hearts with God’s will and trusting Him to guide us. Through prayer, we ask God to reveal His plans for us, and He responds with peace, wisdom, and insight.
Sometimes, we know God is calling us to step out in faith, but we’re unsure or afraid. In these moments, prayer can help us gain the courage to move forward. Ask God to give you the boldness to pursue His calling without fear of failure or judgment.
#7: Live with Intentionality
To truly live out your God-given purpose, it’s essential to cultivate intentionality in your life. Living intentionally means making choices that reflect your values, goals, and the calling God has placed on your heart.
Every Christian woman has been given unique gifts and talents to serve God and others. The key is recognizing those gifts and intentionally using them for His glory. Whether it’s teaching, hospitality, counseling, or leadership, God has equipped you for a specific purpose in His kingdom.
Living with intentionality means being bold in pursuing what God has called you to. It’s easy to shy away from challenges or opportunities that require stepping out of our comfort zones, but God encourages us to be courageous. As we live boldly for Him, we inspire others to do the same.
Discover and Live Out Your Purpose
Discovering and living out your God-given purpose is a journey—a lifelong process of growth, reflection, and obedience. It’s not about achieving perfection but about aligning your heart with God’s will and living with intentionality, faith, and purpose. As Christian women, we are uniquely equipped to live lives that reflect God’s love and serve His kingdom in powerful ways.
By seeking God through prayer, overcoming doubts with His truth, and taking practical steps to live with purpose, we can walk confidently in the path He has laid before us. God’s purpose for our lives is not only for our benefit but also for the good of others and the glory of His name. Step out today, trusting that God is with you every step of the way as you discover and live out the unique calling He has placed on your life.
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Emily Christine is a passionate Christian blogger and writer who inspires and equips others to live out their faith in practical, everyday ways. Emily’s writing reflects her love for Scripture, her commitment to helping others, and her deep belief in the transformative power of God’s Word. When she’s not writing, Emily enjoys spending time with her family, reading, and exploring ways to live out her faith with purpose.
Trusting God in All Circumstances
Whoever told you that when you become a Christian all things will be sunshine and roses, and everything will work out the way you’d hope, lied to you. Being a Christian doesn’t give you a pass to the “fast track” of living your dream life here on Earth. When you’re down, frustrated, or don’t understand what’s happening…
Whoever told you that when you become a Christian all things will be sunshine and roses, and everything will work out the way you’d hope, lied to you.
Being a Christian doesn’t give you a pass to the “fast track” of living your dream life here on Earth.
Being obedient to the Lord doesn’t mean all of your wants and desires will be handed over to you immediately and without a cost. Just ask an Old Testament saint. Or any of Jesus’s disciples. As a matter of fact, ask any godly friend who’s been a Christian more than a few years.
When you’re down, frustrated, or don’t understand what’s happening, I bet they’d all tell you the same thing: Trust in God and His bigger plan, or–
Trust in the Lord with all your heart.
That sounds really good on paper. But how do we get there? Of course, the first thing we need to do is explore the Word.
What Does the Bible Say About Trusting God?
The Bible has a lot to say about trusting God. But, let me start with one thing it doesn’t say— it never says that it’s going to be easy. Through the many lives we read about in the pages of Scripture— Abraham and Sarah, David, Paul, Peter, Job, Daniel— we see clearly that God isn’t concerned with how light of a journey it will be for us. He protects us, but that doesn’t mean we’ll never face trials. Trusting Him always comes with a cost, but He is always there traveling with us, and it’s worth it. The more we trust in God, the more we grow in Him. And, news flash— He isn’t especially concerned with our happiness. He’s concerned with our holiness.
Trusting God Starts With Knowing Who God Is.
Countless times in the Psalms, the Lord is referred to as our rock, salvation, help, and protection. It is under the shadow of His wings that we find refuge. The God who created the universe is the same God who knit you together in your mother’s womb. He’s in the big picture, and He’s in the details. He is all-powerful, all-knowing, and fully in control.
“Trust in the Lord forever, for in God the Lord, we have an everlasting Rock. ”
This same God tells you that in His book, they were all written– the days fashioned for you when as yet there were none of them (Psalm 139:16). He knows your beginning and end– and everything in between.
It’s important to start with these truths because without meditating on who God truly is, you can jump straight to questioning why He is doing what He is doing. But, when you remember who He is and how deeply He knows you, your perspective can be in the right place.
Trusting God Means You Commit Your Way to Him.
Even when the steps you need to take don’t make sense, or if the Lord tells you to go North, but you think you should go South– when you fully trust Him, you commit your way to Him. You do this because you know Him, and you know that He has your best interest at heart. It may not be what you think is best for you, but remember, His plans and purposes always end in something good for you (Romans 8:28) and exist to bring Him glory.
“Commit your way to the Lord, trust also in Him, and He will do it. ”
Committing your way to the Lord means that you relinquish your desire to take control and create the map yourself. It’s God’s map, God’s plans, and God’s compass. Let Him direct your steps, knowing that He’ll take you in the right direction.
Trusting God Means You Look to Him for Guidance.
You’ve committed your steps to Him, but wait– that path over there looks shiny and sparkly. It looks a little easier; less rugged. Perhaps that’s the way to go?
“Let me hear Your faithfulness in the morning, for I trust in You; teach me the way in which I should walk; for to You I lift up my soul. ”
Ever have thoughts like this? You allow God to direct you for a time, but then, ever so slowly, your feet begin to shuffle off His path as you create your own. As the Psalmist says, remember that the Lord is faithful. He’ll remind you of His faithfulness anytime you ask.
Inquire of Him the way in which you should walk. This isn’t a one-time thing; this is ongoing, constant communication with the Lord. He’ll not only show you the path to take but also how to maneuver it. He’ll give you the wisdom you need and guide you every step of the way.
Why is Trusting God Important?
You can learn all you want about trusting in the Lord, but if you don’t make the decision to be obedient, what profit is it to you? You need to understand the “why” because, yes, you do have a choice. If you aren’t trusting God, by default, you are trusting in your own plans or in someone else’s.
“Come now, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to such and such a city, and spend a year there and engage in business and make a profit.” Yet you do not know what your life will be like tomorrow. For you are just a vapor that appears for a little while, and then vanishes away. Instead, you ought to say, “If the Lord wills, we will live and also do this or that.” But as it is, you boast in your arrogance; all such boasting is evil. ”
James brings up the point that you don’t know what your life will be like tomorrow. Everything happens according to the Lord’s will. Although that doesn’t mean you should live a life flying by the seat of your pants or just go with the flow, taking things as they come, you still need to acknowledge that the Lord is the One fully in control, directing your steps. And, allow Him to do so. He is the One orchestrating the show.
Our thoughts are not above His thoughts, and the truth is, He is the only One with the complete, bird’s-eye view. We can only see what is right in front of us, no matter how much planning for the future that we do.
So, no, there is nothing wrong with making plans, booking dates, or writing in your planner. However, just realize that God has the final say, and it’s best to be ready and willing to be flexible at every moment. In other words, write the plans of your life in pencil because God is the only one who holds the ink pen.
Jesus is the Same Yesterday, Today, and Forever.
Although you may be going through a time in your life when you see nothing happening– no fruit, no results, no change, and things seem desolate– God is still the same.
God is still praiseworthy. You can still rejoice in the Lord. You can still find joy in Him as the God of your salvation. He is still your strength.
Trusting God When You Don’t Understand
Even though the truths mentioned above sound well and good, when you’re in the thick of things and going through trials, they can be hard to walk out. I believe that’s one of the reasons the word “trust” is mentioned in the Bible well over 100 times. God knows you. He knows that as you go through life, you need the constant reminder to not only trust Him, but also the reminder that He is always with you.
God has bigger purposes and plans that you can’t always see and understand. This is why He tells us to “lean not on our own understanding” (Proverbs 3:5).
We’ve gone through times in my family where our kids’ behavior has been difficult for quite awhile, and it seems that no matter what we as parents do, nothing changes.
Perhaps things are a bit chaotic at your job, and you’re doing your best, but you just can’t seem to move ahead or get the work done.
Maybe you’re going through a loss, a deep pain, or rejection, and you can’t see the end. You can’t quite see the light at the end of the proverbial tunnel.
Perhaps you’re single and deeply longing to be married. You feel you’ve been waiting forever and have stopped believing that you’ll ever find the one.
Or, there’s a struggle in your marriage. You fight and make amends for a time, but in the long run, you’re growing more apart than together.
Whatever the case may be, the circumstances in your life right now are not a surprise to the Lord. Sometimes you can’t see what’s going on behind the scenes in God’s plans and purposes for your family or your life. However, he’s still the Playwright, the Author, the Orchestrator, and the Director. He knows what characters should enter for which scenes. It’s your job to simply follow the script (the Holy Spirit’s promptings in your life as He directs your steps).
You see, it’s much easier to accept the fact that it’s ok that you don’t understand circumstances when you first accept that you are not the one in charge.
A Lesson From Habakkuk
The book of Habakkuk begins with the prophet crying out to the Lord. He didn’t initially understand why God would use the Chaldeans and their wickedness to bring judgment on His chosen people.
“Though the fig tree may not blossom,
Nor fruit be on the vines;
Though the labor of the olive may fail,
And the fields yield no food;
Though the flock may be cut off from the fold,
And there be no herd in the stalls—
Yet I will rejoice in the Lord,
I will joy in the God of my salvation.
The Lord God is my strength;
He will make my feet like deer’s feet,
And He will make me walk on my high hills. ”
If you’ve never read it or don’t remember, you can find a good summary of the book here. Just like Habakkuk, sometimes we don’t realize why God allows certain things to happen in our life the way they do.
During those times, you may want God to “do something,” and maybe there have been times when you’ve wondered why He “hasn’t.”
These verses above from Habakkuk 3 remind me that God is fully in control, even during the times when I honestly feel like our parenting is in vain. The fig tree isn’t blossoming and there is no fruit on the vines. These tangible things I look for can’t be seen, yet God is working behind the scenes.
And it’s the same for you.
He’s working behind the scenes in your life– growing your faith, changing your heart, leading you closer to Him, and preparing you for what He has next.
For me, maybe this challenging time with our kids’ behavior is being used by the Lord to help me learn to better walk in the Spirit in my parenting. Perhaps the purpose behind this time of “defeat” is bigger than you can understand or even realize. I think the Israelites felt the same way when they were invaded. As God’s chosen people, I bet they wondered how in the world this could happen to them.
Yet, the Chaldean invasion wasn’t the end of the story for Israel, and this time of what you’re going through isn’t the end of your story either.
What is God’s Perspective?
Like Habakkuk, we need the Lord’s perspective in all of this.
“I will stand my watch
And set myself on the rampart,
And watch to see what He will say to me,
And what I will answer when I am corrected. ”
Habakkuk brought some tough questions before the Lord. He was honest and open. Not only did he expect the Lord to answer Him (2:1), but he was also willing to wait on the Lord for His response. Habakkuk knew that his perspective was more than likely wrong and that the Lord would correct him. He didn’t come to the Lord from the angle of, “God, you’re wrong for doing it this way.” He trusted God’s sovereignty.
Simply praying for God to step in and do His work brings a desire in your heart to release all trust to Him.
“Lord, I have heard the report about You, and I was afraid.
Lord, revive Your work in the midst of the years,
In the midst of the years make it known. ”
The beginning of Habakkuk’s prayer in chapter 3 spoke to me because I believe the Lord is saying that I just need to pray and let the Lord work. Trusting God is something I need to do in every moment. Perhaps that is what we all need to do.
Habakkuk called for a revival. He’d seen how the people responded to the Lord’s work in the past when things were good, and he asked God to do it again.
When our kids’ behavior is difficult for a time and nothing is changing, I can pray for a revival in their hearts, specifically in the area of their behavior. What the Lord can do in their hearts is more powerful than anything I could do. And, what the Lord can do in your life during this trial is more powerful than anything you can do.
Revival is an act of God, not man.
Let God do His work and allow Him to have His way in your life, knowing that no time period of trials is outside of His purposes.
Trusting God in All Circumstances
Sister, let’s not lean on our own understanding but trust in the Lord instead. He knows all of our days and He never fails us. Seek His perspective in all things, and remember that He is good all the time.
Bible Verses About Trusting God
The Lord is able to do all things. He is above all, sovereign and totally in control. We have no reason not to trust Him, yet in our flesh and our human nature, oftentimes we don’t. We all need a little help.
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Cultivating Christian Community
No one was meant to live alone on an island. We all need a community– not just a group of people to belong to, but the sense that we belong. In a community…
No one was meant to live alone on an island. We all need a community– not just a group of people to belong to, but the sense that we belong. In a community, we have commonalities, similar thought processes, and interests. Or quite honestly, we have many differences, but the bond of love that is created still enables us to function as a whole and enjoy each other’s company.
The people who get you. Those who understand your point of view, even if they don’t agree with you 100% of the time. Those who are aware of your quirks and love you anyway. Those who hold your hand, either when you’re crying, or to pull you along to go grab some coffee.
The ones you can tell your deepest fears, heartaches, joys, and dreams. They rejoice in the Lord with you and hold you accountable when you falter.
Can you picture a few faces in your head? I bet you can.
What is Christian Community?
The community we are talking about today isn’t the hub or town where you live. I’m referring to that sense of community for which our souls long: Christian community.
The definition of community is a feeling of fellowship with others, as a result of sharing common attitudes, interests, and goals.
As believers– no matter our backgrounds, ethnicities, or favorite movie genres– we can come alongside one another and seamlessly bond together. No matter how great our differences, we have one commonality that is greater than the sum of them:
The Holy Spirit.
“Therefore I, the prisoner of the Lord, urge you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling with which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, being diligent to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. There is one body and one Spirit, just as you also were called in one hope of your calling; one Lord, one faith, one baptism, one God and Father of all who is over all and through all and in all. ”
The Spirit lives within us. And sister, He yields a unity between us like no other. This unity is the feeling you get when you meet a random stranger who you learn is a believer, and within several minutes of chatting, you feel like you’ve known her for years.
The Spirit provides the atmosphere for a Christian community to flourish because God is over all and through all and in all.
How to Build Christian Community
Once we focus on the fact that the Spirit is already working in us, through us, and creating that perfect unity, understanding how to build a Christian community seems a little less daunting.
Here’s what I mean.
Let me encourage you with a few things I’ve seen in my own life that have been beneficial in building a community:
Live a Godly lifestyle.
It starts with seeking the Lord and pursuing righteousness. You make time for God, grow in your walk, and live out the Word. You live for the glory of God alone.
Fellowship regularly.
Don’t hide, sister! You can’t build Christian community if no one ever sees you. You may feel more comfortable being alone, but again, the Lord desires that you fellowship with others, build each other up (Romans 14:9), and bless one another (Acts 4:32). Go to church. Serve. Attend Bible study and special events. Go to that girl’s night out. Get to know each other!
Create Godly friendships.
A Godly friendship begins when you first seek the Lord and live a godly lifestyle. Then, you link up with others who do the same. When Christ is at the center of a relationship, amazing things happen. He gives you a heart that is loyal to one another and seeks to bring Him glory in your association.
Be the person who connects people.
Once you get to know others, be the person who is mindful of ways you can connect friend to friend. Do you have two friends with kids who are similar ages? Friends who are both in the thick of potty training toddlers? Or, maybe they’re both avid runners? Introduce them. Be the person who aids in the igniting of the spark of new friendships.
Just relax.
All of the above can sound like a little much, right (especially if you tend to be introverted!)? Starting and growing new relationships can be a lot of work; well worth it, but it takes time, effort, and patience.
But God. That other person is His creation just like you are. He desires for her to walk worthy of her calling, use her spiritual gifts for His glory, and to fellowship with other believers.
These are the things He desires for you too. So if this is true, then understand that He will orchestrate the many facets of partaking in Christian community and guide you in every step. With the Lord as your guide, you won’t have to strive to make things happen on your own.
Unity in Christian Community
So, we’ve talked about how to build Christian community, or in other words, how to establish it. But, once you have an established community, how do you create a sense of community in the group? What components make for that rich fellowship that manifests itself within the group?
Let’s look to Philippians 2.
“So if there is any encouragement in Christ, any comfort from love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy, complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord, and of one mind.”
These verses speak of unity. If Christ is at the center of your group, then, and only then, can there be a bond of unity through Him.
The Apostle Paul says that when we operate as a community in Christ, we have the ability to be of the same mind, acting in Christ’s love, and unified under the same banner.
Why? Because we are unified through Christ– not our likes, dislikes, and commonalities. Through Christ.
In Him, we have encouragement, comfort in His love, fellowship in the Spirit, and the ability to show affection and mercy. The Spirit works through us and in our midst to bring about that deep sense of relational community between us.
And it goes on,
“Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.”
Therefore, as we fellowship in the Spirit and He directs the bonds we are creating, He helps us see each other through His eyes. But more importantly, He allows us to see ourselves through His eyes. And in doing so, we are led to look out for the welfare of others.
In creating a God-honoring community, we are not selfish.
We don’t seek friendships only for personal gain.
We remain humble.
We look into and out for the interests of others.
Sister, the process of moving from how to build Christian community, to establishing and creating a sense of community is one of first seeking the Lord so you can learn to be a godly friend. From there, as you allow the Spirit to work in you and within your community, He gives you the heart attitude necessary to create a culture of humility and selflessness, operating in one mind to glorify Him.
Are You Growing or Dying?
Creating Christian community is a process, friend. First, you build it (as led by the Lord); then, you establish a sense of community within the group. Thankfully we have the Lord to help us along the way!
But, don’t tune out yet. We have one more piece of the puzzle.
There is a saying that speaks to the idea that nothing ever “stays the same” (except the Lord, of course! He never changes). Everything is either growing or dying.
Meaning, that our default mode isn’t one where we remain constant, smooth sailing on cruise control. Despite what many think, we can’t become grounded in our faith, and then just let it go, expecting it to maintain itself.
No— we are either growing in the Lord or our faith flame is flickering out.
There needs to be a consistent effort on our part to seek the Lord and be diligent to grow in Him. He’s always there, but we decide to come to Him.
Stagnation equals death— in our relationships, our spiritual growth, and within our community.
So, creating Christian community isn’t enough. From there, we must make efforts to cultivate it.
Walking out God’s Word is one of the most surefire ways to let your light shine, encourage others, and serve those in your midst. All of these things go hand in hand with creating community. Study Romans 12 and meditate on the ways God’s Word instructs us to live in a way that brings God glory. Fill out the form below to download your free guide!
Cultivating Your Christian Community
The definition of cultivate is to foster the growth of something. One of the most beautiful models we have for this is seen within the first church:
“And they devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and the fellowship, to the breaking of bread and the prayers. And awe came upon every soul, and many wonders and signs were being done through the apostles. And all who believed were together and had all things in common. And they were selling their possessions and belongings and distributing the proceeds to all, as any had need. And day by day, attending the temple together and breaking bread in their homes, they received their food with glad and generous hearts, praising God and having favor with all the people. And the Lord added to their number day by day those who were being saved. ”
There is something that sounds so delightful about that, isn’t there? I truly believe that this is such a good model in which our churches can still operate today.
But sister, not just our churches— our small groups, our pockets of ministry, and the community we’re building among friends.
Being devoted to studying the Word.
Being devoted to fellowship and prayer with one another.
Being together as believers.
Having all things in common— the unity that only Christ provides.
Committing to being present with others, in church and through the hospitality we show within our homes.
Having a grateful attitude— counting it a blessing to receive, as well as to give generously to our sisters.
Because the fact of the matter is, we ARE the Church. Therefore, this isn’t only a good model for our churches. It’s also a good model for us as individuals; an example we can follow as we’re cultivating community with our friendships.
Sister, this is how we cultivate Christian community: Being mindful of the Lord’s will for our community, we allow Him to light the flame, and then, with His direction, we fan it these ways.
Not only do these components draw us closer to the Lord and each other, but they also yield blessings:
Unification. Needs are filled. We have favor with people. Our community grows as the Lord directs it to grow.
When we create community and step aside and let the Lord cultivate it and foster its growth, it will flourish beyond what we can imagine.
What is Christian Community Without the Lord?
Nothing. No matter what you do, how many steps you take, or all of the effort you make in building friendships, you’ll never know how to build community if you don’t put Christ at the center. All of your efforts will be in vain.
But here’s what I know, sister. You are loved and cherished by God. He wants your life to bring Him glory as you walk out His purposes for you. He wants you to play your part in strengthening other believers because you are valuable and He’s given you spiritual gifts to use.
You were created on purpose. There is no one like you. This means that no one can have another friend exactly like you. If you stay in the dark, hide, and dodge building friendships and community, there will be sisters missing out on something influential, special, and unique in their lives:
The relationship they can have with you.
Sister, allow the Lord to use you as He sees fit in the lives of others. Trust Him as He guides and directs your steps in building Christian community for His glory.
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6 Biblical Ways to Cope with Distress
Life events, trauma, and stress produce real emotions that we have. Anything we face that causes us to cope with an unwanted reality can cause distress. So what can we do about it?
Whether you’re reading this article at the time it was written or years later, it is safe to say there is a lot going on in the world that can cause anxiety. Unpleasantness. Fear. Uneasiness. Confusion. Sadness.
Distress.
It’s not my intention to label you with these emotions or make you bear the weight of them if you don’t identify with one (or more) currently. The fact of the matter is we know in this world we will face tribulations (John 16:33), and we should not think it is strange (1 Peter 4:12) to encounter trials. What should be “strange,” or foreign to our character, is camping in the midst of our troubles. We can’t control how long we go through trials, but sitting in the midst of them in distress is not what the Lord tells us to do. There is no hope in distress. The only hope exists in our Lord, and in Him is where our focus should be.
Like so many other things in life and in our Christian walk, keeping our eyes on the Lord during hard times is easier said than done. Thankfully, we can go to His Word for guidance in how to do so. But first, let’s take a quick look at distress so we know how to identify this unwelcome guest when it determines to take over our minds.
What is distress?
Distress can be defined as a negative type of… you guessed it… stress, which causes feelings of worry, anxiety, sadness, and fear. No one is immune to distress; adults and children alike will go through periods of distress in their lifetime.
Many times, when you’re dealing with distress, you can begin to act out of character. Your normal, pleasant demeanor may become temporarily marred with sadness; there’s a little less pep in your step; perhaps you’re easily angered; or you lack the motivation you typically have because everything feels overwhelming. Have you been there before? I know I have.
What causes stress or distress?
Life events, trauma, and stress produce these real emotions that we have. Anything we face that causes us to cope with an unwanted reality can cause distress: a job loss, financial changes, a medical diagnosis, a traumatic event, loss of a loved one, or a big move. I’m sure each of us could come up with a list of things we’ve faced in our lifetimes that have caused distress. Even huge life changes that bring joy such as marriage, a new baby, or going on a missions trip can at times cause levels of distress. As exciting as these important events are, they contain so many moving pieces and can become simply overwhelming. Some may call this type of stress “eustress” instead of distress, since it’s related to more of a positive type of stressor. I think that even within these joyful, yet trying times, if we are not mindful we can easily fall into a level of being overwhelmed leading to anxiety and fear. While we can acknowledge and be aware of the negative emotions when they surface, the trick is to not succumb to them and camp out there. The goal is to cast those negative emotions to the Lord and refocus our eyes on Him because let’s face it— we will always move in the direction of our gaze.
So how do we refocus?
Grab your Bible and dive into Psalm 118 with me. It’ll be helpful to read through it in its entirety right now, before going through the rest of this post.
Seriously, go get your Bible! I’ll wait.
What to do when you’re distressed
Figuring out how to cope with stress can seem daunting; however, the Psalmist shares some beautiful truths about the Lord in Psalm 118. We also see vulnerability and a dependence on the Lord as he faces trials. This is where our hearts should land as well— focusing on His truths as we depend on the Lord in all things. If you’re like so many, and you’re wondering what to do when you’re feeling distressed, Psalm 118 sheds light on a few things.
1- Acknowledge His Character
Read: verses 1-4
Our daily tasks, our responsibilities, our stress level, our emotions, our circumstances— what is the common denominator? They all change. They may stay the same for a time, but eventually they will change. We’ll have new thoughts and emotions or we’ll find ourselves in new circumstances. The events and happenings of our lives are not constant, but the Lord is. He is eternally the same — steady, immutable, and reliable.
“Let those who fear the LORD say,
“His steadfast love endures forever.” ”
When a dancer, such as a ballerina, is doing pirouettes, she fixes her eyes on a certain spot while turning her body. When it’s time to turn her head, she’ll do so quickly in order to once again set her sight on the object she is spotting. This practice of spotting helps to prevent dizziness and leads to smooth, balanced turns.
What are we spotting? Or, more accurately, who are we spotting? When we are going through the turns and chaos of life, is our orientation regularly being fixed on our unchanging God? Or are we constantly changing our gaze and focusing in whatever direction seems helpful at the moment?
Psalm 118 tells us the Lord is good and His steadfast love endures forever. These are constant— His mercy, goodness, kindness, and faithfulness are always there. When we remember this and acknowledge who He is, that His perfect character is 100% true 100% of the time, we are more likely to stay steady as we go through the turns of life.
2- Call out to the Lord
Read: verse 5
Fixing our eyes on the Lord during times of distress is what keeps us grounded. I’m sure I don’t have to tell you this, but distress can consume us if we let it. We can easily become so focused on our struggles that we forget the character of God. Then, we tend to view our circumstances from a disoriented perspective, and therefore make decisions and behave in ways that perhaps hinder more than help.
“From my distress I called upon the LORD; the LORD answered me and put me in an open space.”
Verse five, however, invites us to a different reality. Like the psalmist, we are to call out to the Lord in our distress. Go to Him in prayer. Seek Him; wait on Him. He has all the answers and knows the end from the beginning. We have the ability to surrender all to Him.
Here, the psalmist proclaims when he called out to the Lord, the Lord answered and, as the NASB says, “put me in an open space”. Other translations use the phrase, “set me free”. The idea of being set free from the strongholds of our troubles, worries and pain in the midst of our distress undoubtedly makes sense to you; I know it does to me. However, the concept of “open space” is one I wanted to contemplate.
At first thought, I realized open space implied a sense of liberty or freedom, as in being set free. But to offer more clarification, let me share that the Hebrew word used for “distress” in this verse means straits, troubles, pains, or narrow place.
Narrow place—- a place where we can feel stuck. There isn’t much wiggle room. We can barely move. We often don’t have a wide variety of ways to maneuver. We have limited freedom, if you will.
Recently our family vacationed at an indoor waterpark. Our kids were so excited about the plethora of water slides, big and small. I was happy to venture down most of the slides along with them, except the fully enclosed tubes. Being mildly claustrophobic, the thought of sitting in a completely enclosed, narrow tube (that is, a narrow place) did not sit well with me. Small spaces where it feels as if the walls are closing in, even for but a few seconds… no thank you. I had to explain to my kids that I was only game for the open slides; the ones where I could see my surroundings with a clear view of where I was heading as I ventured downward to the water.
Narrow spaces, whether literal or figurative, can cause a sense of entrapment and panic. If we aren’t careful, we can start to believe that we can’t see God or He can’t see or hear us, and that we can’t escape.
But God... When we call out to Him in the midst of that narrow place, He hears us, answers us, and sets us in an open space— one where we are free from those strongholds and our perspective is greater.
focus on Him during your times of distress
Sister, let’s not camp out in the land of distress. Instead of wondering how to cope with stress, we can realize that the Lord has all the answers! He is all we need.
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3- Hold your position
Read: verses 6-13
What better help exists than that of the Lord? Our opposition, whether physical, mental, or emotional, cannot stand against the Lord, which is why it’s important to let Him fight our battles. He comes alongside us as our helper and gives us the victory.
“The LORD is on my side as my helper;
I shall look in triumph on those who hate me.”
Verse six, in the ESV, says “the Lord is on my side”. If this is our position, knowing He has the power to set us free from the narrowing limitations that constrict us, why would we dare to step out of line? No, we must hold our position. We must throw water on the flames of fear. We must willfully trust and believe that our position is in the refuge and safety of the Lord. Even if we still feel surrounded by chaos and calamity, we are safe in Him.
We trust in no other name but Jesus. We relinquish the thought of relying on our own devices and power. Instead, we move solely in the name of the Lord and witness His powerful work in our circumstances.
4- Worship
Read: verses 14-18
Whether we are standing in the narrow strait or in the open space, it makes no difference. With the Lord on our side, fighting for us, we have reason to worship.
“The LORD is my strength and my song;
He has become my salvation.”
Even in the midst of our struggles, we can worship the God whose steadfast love endures forever. In fact, I’ve experienced that worship can stem from a deeper depth and conviction of our souls in the hard times. The pain is more palpable, therefore the worship is more meaningful.
Sister, is He truly your strength and your song? Do you believe that He is your salvation? Then sing!
Let us praise Him, for although we may be pressed down, He will not allow us to be consumed by what we’re facing. The quicker we come to a heart of worship— even in the midst of distress— the quicker our perspective changes.
The amazing thing about worship is that it’s multifaceted. It praises God, allowing Him to get the glory; it redirects our hearts back to the throne of God, giving us the ability to see through the clouds and focus on our Savior. And, our personal worship also blesses others in that it gives testimony to what God has done, so they too may be drawn in to witness the power of our great God.
“But as for me, the nearness of God is good for me; I have made the Lord God my refuge, so that I may tell of all Your works.”
Sing a new song, bless the Lord, and live a life of worship.
5- Rejoice in His Presence
Read: verses 19-24
Where else would we go? Where else should we be, but in the presence of the Lord? As we’re journeying through hard times or seasons of distress, the most important thing we can do is continue to seek the Lord. Here is the ultimate “self-care”— it’s called surrender! Surrender your will, your thoughts, your struggles, and your ways unto the Lord, and continually sit in His presence. Cast every weight unto Him and He will care for you.
“Open the gates of righteousness to me; I will enter through them, I will give thanks to the LORD.”
Allow me to share another thought on worship, for herein lies its power: the more we worship, the more of a desire we have to be in His presence. And, the more we are in His presence, acknowledging His character and seeing Him move in our lives, the more we will worship. This continuum is only broken when we fix our eyes on someone or something other than the Author and Finisher of our faith.
Being in the Lord’s presence, whether by prayer, sitting quietly at His feet, being in the Word, or by whatever means the Lord is calling us to in the moment, gives us the opportunity to see and acknowledge the ways the Lord has answered our prayers (verse 21). When the Lord calls these things to mind, don’t brush them off; instead, think on them, notice His faithfulness, and trust Him more deeply.
Sister, you, like me, have the choice to either continue to wonder what to do when you’re feeling distressed, or to plant your feet in His presence and proclaim,
“This is the day that the LORD has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.”
Yes, this day. A good day, or a hard day— it is still a day the Lord has made. Just as the day of our Lord’s sacrifice on the cross— the chief cornerstone, who was rejected— it was the day the Lord had made. We can rejoice in it.
He is still sovereign over this day. He has ordained it, and it is not outside of His plan. And, because we’ve already learned that His goodness, kindness, and faithfulness endure forever, we can trust Him in this day.
6- Encouragement & Praise
Read: verses 25-29
It may not be easy, but by the grace of God and in His strength, we can bring encouragement to those around us during our times of distress. We look again at the ultimate sacrifice of Jesus— one day, entering the gate while being praised and blessed with Hosannas, and a short time later becoming the sacrifice for all mankind. Several verses in this Psalm give us that prophetic vantage point. No doubt this should remind us that God is the LORD (verse 27) and we are to bless Him.
“The LORD is God, and He has made His light to shine upon us.”
We invite others to join us in blessing Him, for His light shines on us, He saves us, and He alone is the one who brings prosperity.
When we spend time in His presence, worshiping Him and meditating on what He’s done for us, it’s easier to turn our eyes outward to encourage others with these same truths. From the viewpoint of His presence, we see more clearly all of the marvelous works He’s done, not just what He’s personally done for us.
And so, this ending brings us right back to the beginning— expressing our thankfulness and acknowledgment of His character. Notice the personal claim in verse 28. The Psalmist proclaims to the Lord, “You are my God.” He is the Lord, yes; but, if you have received the free gift of salvation, then He is YOUR God. Will you praise Him, exalt Him, and bless Him like no other?
When you’re feeling distressed, sister, remember that He is good. You have reason to thank Him. He is on your side, and His steadfast love endures forever. Allow Him to pluck you out of the narrow and set you in the open space. The right hand of the Lord does valiantly (verse 16).
So let it be.
Waiting Well: A Lesson in Patience
Waiting is seldom easy. In fact, it can be downright difficult. But, it’s always possible. I know it doesn’t feel that way at the moment, but let’s take our feelings…
I have a feeling you’ll be able to relate to some of this, sister…
When we were kids, we couldn’t wait to be teenagers. As teenagers, we couldn’t wait to drive, and then one day become adults. Maybe if you’re currently single, you desire to be married. Or perhaps you’re waiting to have kids. One day, you’ll be waiting for those kids to have kids so you can become a grandparent!
Or, more solemnly, perhaps it’s your prodigal child who’s turned his heart from the Lord, that you’re prayerfully waiting to return. Possibly, you’re waiting for the test results to come back so the doctor can determine an official diagnosis. Or, you’re waiting for a breakthrough in the difficulties enveloping your marriage.
Waiting is seldom easy. In fact, it can be downright difficult. But, it’s always possible– it truly is. I know it doesn’t feel that way at the moment, but let’s take our feelings off of the table for the time being, shall we? As women, we often focus too much on how we feel in a particular situation, and allow those emotions to determine how we navigate the waters. This is true for so many areas of our lives, but particularly true when we’re waiting; when we’re doing our best to be patient.
As a Christian, patience is a key character trait in our faith. Our goal should be to patiently endure as Christ did. We are called to be patient with others, patient with the Lord as we wait on Him, and to let patience have its perfect work within us (James 1:4). We have the Holy Spirit in us, guiding and directing our steps– but we must be still and listen. We can have patience as we allow Him to work in us in the hard times– the times of waiting for days, weeks, or even years. We can choose to fret or to wait patiently for the God who is sovereign over our lives (Psalm 37:7).
What is patience?
Cambridge Dictionary defines patience as “the ability to wait, or to continue doing something despite difficulties, or to suffer without complaining or becoming annoyed.”
Often, in various translations of the Bible, patience is called “longsuffering”. It’s the idea of being able to suffer long; however, not just for a long time, but to also suffer well. Patience is the opposite of quick anger and loss of control. There is a strength that we exude when we operate in patience, and on the contrary, a weakness when we react impatiently.
If you’ve been following our Godly Woman Wardrobe series, you know that patience (or longsuffering) is the 5th character trait we are to put on according to Colossians 3:12-14.
“Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering; bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection. ”
We can be patient and endure because of the hope we have in Christ (1 Thessalonians 1:3). Patience is a flex of our endurance muscle, giving us the ability to wait on the Lord’s timing, trust in the Lord’s goodness, and believe the outcome of our trials will be for our good and His glory. Endurance takes faith—not passivity— to work. In faith, we can be still and allow God to be God in our lives.
And of course, sister, what is patience if not one of the beautiful pieces of the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22). Through the sanctification process, as the Spirit is at work in our lives changing us to be more and more like Christ, we ever increasingly live and breathe the character of God. In obedience to the Holy Spirit and His promptings, we can then exhibit patience, even in the toughest moments and circumstances.
How to be patient
In terms of discovering how to be patient, keep in mind that, like any other aspect of our faith, patience isn’t a one-size-fits-all character trait. God will provide different situations in the lives of each of us to help us grow in patience. What circumstances that cause me to learn how to have more patience may look drastically different than the situations that cause you to flex your endurance. Let us not compare; instead, let us be mindful of the things of God: His personalized, customized working of sanctification in us, and walk worthy of the particular calling He has set before us.
As we look at these five, general ways to slow down, take a step back, and be mindful of our growth in patience, we can do so knowing that the Lord will give each of us the strength and endurance due to us so that we can glorify Him in the process.
Please note: There are so many ways to learn how to be patient. You could likely come up with your own list of five! I encourage you to comb through the Scriptures and discover all of the Bible verses about patience. To get you started, here are a few things the Lord has laid on my heart.
#1: Wait on the Lord.
Wait on the Lord; be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart; wait, I say, on the Lord! -Psalm 27:14 NKJV
Not long after becoming a stay-at-home mom, I felt the Lord telling us it was time to have a 3rd child. After getting pregnant fairly quickly, I had a miscarriage. If you’ve ever experienced a miscarriage, or know someone who has, you know how difficult it is. For me, the next part of the equation was very trying as well– waiting to get pregnant again. This had never been something I struggled with before (and I know many who have, so believe me, I do not take this for granted and am very thankful), so it became a very confusing time for me. I began wondering if my body was still working correctly and why it would take so long when I knew it was the Lord who had placed the desire on my heart to have another child. Why was He withholding?
I had so many questions throughout the year that it took me to conceive again, and I truly had to dig deep to walk out the words of this verse. To be of good courage; to wait; to allow Him to strengthen my heart– these were all things I could not do on my own. When my fleshly thoughts wanted to take over, I had to remember that His words do not return void and He is the Ultimate Promisekeeper. Recalling the truth of His character helped me to endure in hope during that time. And, while I waited, He reminded me that He is my portion, and all I need (Lamentations 3:24).
#2: Be patient in affliction.
Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. — Romans 12:12 ESV
Did you know you have something in common with Moses, Abraham, Job, Paul (and many others in the Bible)? It’s easily summed up in one word: TRIALS! Trials and storms will come in this life; there is no question about it (John 16:33). In my opinion, knowing this truth reminds me that there is no use trying to avoid tough times and tribulations– they’ll find us anyway!
God, being the gracious, loving, and sovereign Father He is, gives us the strength we need to be patient and stand firm, even in affliction. Amid our tribulations, we can fix our eyes on the Lord, trusting Him to take care of all we need as He leads us through. Patience in affliction comes via trust in Him, prayer, and steadfastness to keep His Word.
#3: Be patient in relationships.
Now we exhort you, brethren, warn those who are unruly, comfort the fainthearted, uphold the weak, be patient with all. — 1 Thessalonians 5:14 NKJV
Whether our spouse, kids, co-workers, or brothers and sisters in Christ, we are called to be patient with all. And, if you weren’t sure, all means all. :) That includes those who are unruly– a little stubborn in their opinions or perhaps even argumentative. We’re told we should, as the Thessalonians we also instructed, warn or admonish them firmly and gently– in a way that still is loving. We sprinkle our words with grace and truth, and honor Christ in the way we respond, react, and instruct.
What about comforting the fainthearted– those who, as it means in the original Greek, are “little spirited” or “feebleminded.” We can easily lose our patience with friends or family who don’t get it; or those fellow Christians who may have weaker confidence in the things of the Lord. Yet this is where we’re called to walk slowly; take a seat, and encourage. Drop back to their pace and run alongside them, helping them grow and come to understand the things you hope in on a deeper level.
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And then, as the verse above also states, we’re to uphold the weak. Whether physically, mentally, or perhaps weaker and less firm in their faith– as the Lord upholds us, we’re in turn to do the same for others. There’s no good reason to expect too much from them– give them grace and time to seek the Lord for themselves as well. We can show Christ’s love as we care for, hold fast to, or support those who are more feeble.
Being “patient with all” writes the story not only of how we treat those who need our support, but also of how we respond to others when we’re the ones who are not encouraged, upheld, and comforted, but instead, slandered or insulted. Patience can be tasted on our tongue as we give a soft answer instead of wrath (Proverbs 15:1); felt in our mind as we think before we speak (Proverbs 15:28); or perhaps palpable in our being as we’re slow to anger (Proverbs 14:29).
25 Pro Tips for Patience in Relationships
How to be patient…when you’re tired, you don’t feel like it, or when it’s hard. These are all things we face as we navigate our relationships with others. You’re not alone, sister and the Bible offers us so much wisdom on this topic! Here’s a FREE guide with 25 simple, yet in-depth tips based on Romans 12. Fill out the form below.
#4: Show patience in serving.
And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart. Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all, especially to those who are of the household of faith. -Galatians 6:9-10 NKJV
Things may not always shape up in the way we expect them to, especially when it comes to serving others, but we can trust the Lord that if we are surely operating inside of His will, our serving will not be in vain. Therefore, no matter what it looks like, we focus on the “doing good” and not the “weary”. This proper focus allows our gaze to be fixed on the truth that there is always a season coming, whereas what the Lord purposes for us will be reaped.
It can be hard. It can be tiring. It can stretch our patience. But, our serving others, especially those who are of the household of faith, is never in vain, sister. The Lord desires to use us to do particular works that He ordained for us before the foundation of the world, and our job is to simply, trust, obey, and walk patiently in them. Our strength comes from the Lord, so when those thoughts of weariness come, as long as we’re doing what He’s called us to do, we can wait well for our due season, honoring Him along the way as we take the opportunities He’s given us to do good to all. (Don’t forget, all means all!).
#5: Slow down and learn patience from the Best.
The LORD is compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, abounding in love. — Psalm 103:8 NASB
The Lord is not slow about His promise, as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not willing for any to perish, but for all to come to repentance. — 2 Peter 3:9 NASB
The beautiful thing about patience (and all other godly characteristics) is that we don’t have to pull it out of thin air and fabricate it ourselves. Patience, just like the rest of the Godly Woman Wardrobe, comes from the Lord! God is love, and love is patient (1 Corinthians 13:4). In His greatest act of love He sent His Son to die on the cross for our sins so that through Jesus, we could be reconciled back to God. And in His great patience, He desires all to come to repentance, not wanting anyone to perish. As we wade the waters of relationships, trials, and service, we need to look no further than our Great Example.
We can wait faithfully for His timing because He is always faithful.
We can be still and patiently listen for Him because His still small voice is always there when we seek Him.
We can trust in His promises because He is not slack to keep them.
We can wait patiently for the Lord because His sovereign timing is always precise.
What is patience, if the Lord isn’t in it?
Sister, let me now encourage, uphold, and comfort you! Let us no longer question or wonder ‘how to be patient’. We keep our eyes focused on the Lord, remembering that patience isn’t just a “thing” to be possessed. In other words, we’re not to just have patience. None of the fruit of the Spirit and any other godly characteristic is something to simply have or hold onto. We must walk it out; use it. We show patience in our behaviors, our actions, our words, and responses, as the Lord does in our lives. What He does in us and through us, and more importantly, what we have in Him is enough.
“The Lord is my portion,” says my soul, “Therefore I have hope in Him.” The Lord is good to those who wait for Him, to the person who seeks Him. -Lamentations 3:24-25 NASB
What about you? Do you struggle with patience or does having patience come easily to you? Comment below and let me know!
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